VIII || Validation

Who validates your feelings? Who is responsible to tell you to feel the way you do? To not feel the way you do?

Let me tell you, if the answer isn’t yourself, you’re wrong. You don’t need other people to validate your feelings. You don’t need other people to tell you when it is or isn’t okay for you to feel a certain way. Because your feelings matter. No matter how “crazy” or “irrational” people call it, your feelings are valid in all 7 continents. Because you can’t control your feelings. You can control your actions about those feelings but you can’t control your feelings. So don’t feel bad about how you feel. Don’t feel bad about feeling sensitive or upset. You don’t need to justify anything. You feel the way you do and that’s that.

My family calls me sensitive all the time. They will say something so mean and offending to me and expect me to just laugh at it. When I get upset or angry, they try to tell me I shouldn’t take it offensively because it’s a “joke.” But if the joke is purposely meant to attack me, why am I not allowed to be upset about it? “Oh, you’re just upset because you’re insecure.” Okay great! Thanks for clarifying why I’m upset about an offensive joke.

Another thing, don’t let people tell you who you are. You know who you are, not them. You are what you see yourself as, not how other people see you. If they want to be total dicks and act like they can tell you who you are, punch them in the face… I’m kidding but don’t believe them for a second.

-A.M.

“You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.”

-Audrey Hepburn

 

 


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